Really? Yes. I promise you what you are going through right now, or what you have gone through, you're going to be OK.
If there is anything I have learned in my short 20 years on this planet it is this:
Suffering and pain in life is inevitable. I am sure you know that by now.
Here's the thing, you need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Life can change in an instance and within a blink, your life can turn upside down.
You can sit in darkness and scream at the world for doing this to you (sometimes this is necessary to heal) or you can harness this struggle to help you thrive.
It's in these times that we question our own lives and ourselves; "Why me? I can't survive this." But if you are reading this, you have survived. You have survived what you thought would end your world. That itself proves just how strong you are, my friend.
I'd like to invite you to make a perspective shift so that you can see some good in the pain you are feeling.
Embrace a mindset that shifts from focusing on your losses to your gains.
What have you gained from this experience? Maybe you have been left with beautiful memories. Or you have gained strength that you didn't know was in you. Maybe you discovered something about yourself, that was hidden before. And if anything, you have gained life experience that will help you move forward in your life.
Your pain is valid. The suffering, the struggling and the sadness, anger etc. is real. Acknowledge those emotions, those feelings, feel them. Accept your feelings for what they are. Sit in them and process them. This is the healing process.
There comes a time however, when you need to move on in life as an act of love for yourself and the life you have left.
You will always have the beautiful memories, the experiences and you will also always carry the pain with you.
But when the time comes, and you don't have any tears left or anger stored up, you must take a deep breathe and step forward.
It's scary and it hurts, but we've all been there.
Life is not linear, it fluctuates. So take this fluctuation, and remember your perspective shift.
You are more than capable to handle this my dear.
Go forward in love and in grace knowing that there is always the odd blessing within your struggle and you will be fine. More than this, you will eventually thrive.
Life is short, harness your gains and live your beautiful life.